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Why Self-Improvement Techniques

During the new year, I had a chat with a best friend of mine; He is a great professional who takes pride in what he does.

Why Self-Improvement Techniques
Why Self-Improvement Techniques

He is one of the most compassionate and passionate guys in both life and work.

He’s made a lot of money for the work he does, he’s creating multiple streams of income, and of course, he’s a big advocate for personal development.

Shortly after the new year countdown, we were sitting on a balcony and chatting about the past year. When I congratulated him on all the things he has accomplished, he replied:

“I don’t think he’s going to be successful at all; in fact, I can’t say if I’m any happier than before.”

But how can this be?  He traveled a lot. He religiously practiced his self-improvement techniques. He made a lot of money.

Most people would no doubt think that he was a successful guy and that every day of his life would be bliss.

But this was not true. It didn’t make sense to me, and it probably didn’t make sense t

Singapore, and that means a lot

Why Self-Improvement Techniques
Why Self-Improvement Techniques

I proved to myself that I could challenge myself once again and get out of my comfort zone, part with immediate income gains and comfortable benefits for the chance of a better life.

Now he wanted to make 2017 even better. With a sense of accomplishment, I began to write down my goals for the new year.

Where I wanted to go, what I wanted to do, who I wanted to become, and how much I wanted to earn. Then it hit me. My goals were based on results, not values.

This was exactly the reason why my friend couldn’t be content and happy about all that he had achieved.

I will give you some examples.

He and I practice being thankful every day by making a list of all the things we were thankful for that day.

We started doing this over a year ago because we read or learned that practicing gratitude brings more goodness into our lives.

Looking back now, it wasn’t so much that we had so many things to be thankful for and we just had to write them down; it was more of a required task expecting a specific result by doing it.

Why Self-Improvement Techniques

I mentioned earlier that my friend reads a lot of books. His goal was to read more than 50 books in a year.

Why 50? Because he read somewhere that that’s about the number of books that millionaires and CEOs read each year.

Don’t get me wrong, we both love to read books and he reads a lot in a year.

It’s an amazing feat and he doesn’t read books just to become CEO, but if one person did, how silly would that sound?

Why Self-Improvement Techniques
Why Self-Improvement Techniques

Why Self-Improvement Techniques

learn to enjoy the journey
We all set goals. It drives and motivates us. But if he had a goal of becoming a loving father to his children, there simply can’t be an “end” to this goal.

If you were a loving father today but you will not be tomorrow; you are no longer a loving father.

The same goes for being a faithful husband, a supportive friend, or a successful businessman.

If you think about it, every goal we set shares the same flaw. Let’s say one of your New Year’s resolutions is to lose weight.

Most likely, you will set a specific number as a goal, for example, 10 pounds. You start eating healthier and exercising regularly. Through constant effort, he managed to lose 10 pounds.

However, just because you’ve lost 10 pounds doesn’t mean you can go back to your old lifestyle.

If you return to your old eating habits and a sedentary lifestyle, it will be a matter of time before you recover the lost weight.

Why Self-Improvement Techniques

The reason that setting general goals, and any other self-improvement technique, can do you more harm than good is precisely for this reason.

We become obsessed with the goal, the result, and the results. This mentality is unhealthy. It is not the destination that we should focus on, but the journey.

Imagine a scene where two children are sitting in the back of a car headed to a zoo.

They planned it weeks ago and they are both equally excited to meet all the animals for the first time.

A child keeps asking his father,

“Are we there yet?”

“How long until we get there?”

The only goal of this boy is to get to the zoo. He is eager to explore and see exotic animals for the first time. That is his goal.

Unfortunately, the trip to the zoo will take the family at least 2 hours. This 2-hour trip is not very entertaining for him

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